WTF is wrong with people??

That is the BIG question...WTF is WRONG with people? 

I am at a loss today. There were a few people who were overly ignorant on Reddit on two different posts I did from my blogs. One guy as I said in a previous post called me a whore for posting sensitive ass men; he's obviously one of them! He got his panties in a bunch over that post and said I only find sex-crazed men! LMAO!! Whatever... good thing he knows anything about my personal life. He thought he'd get a rise out of me from his nasty comment. Nope. Instead, I just gave him a smart reply back, reported his comment and blocked his ass. I don't need that kind of negativity in my world. Nope. 

Then I posted sex work is (not) work, I knew this one would get some kind of reaction, I was expecting it. This woman, I don't know who she was, said that sex work IS, in fact, career and that it's just like flipping burgers or working retail. I don't know WHAT on earth she was thinking of saying that but, she is crazy! Being a sex worker aka hooker or prostitute is NOT a job like flipping burgers or working retail. It's not even close to the same thing. 

She seems to think it IS a choice to become a prostitute, I don't know anyone who says, I want to have sex for money from now on, FUCK working as a lawyer or doctor or flipping burger. 

Prostitution is a very dangerous job. Many of these women get hooked on drugs, beaten, raped and killed. They get all kinds of STDs and pregnant countless times, have countless abortions and a lot of times don't get a lot of the money they make because their "John's" take it! 

This woman tried to say that hookers can make six figures a year! I don't know many hookers that make that kind of money. Maybe she's thinking of escorts??? Escorts don't always have sex for money though. They'll go on dates and such but a lot of them won't have sex. The higher class escorts can make a decent amount of money. They aren't in the same class as hookers though, you don't find an escort on the side of the street asking you at a red light if you want a date tonight or a "good time." 

No thanks!! I don't know who touched you last, how many guys touched you just today or if you've cleaned in between! That's NASTY! I would never in my life think being a sex worker is a career. Not for a second and you can't change my mind on that. I'd rather be homeless, at a shelter trying to figure out another way to better my life and make money before I'd ever even think about being a hooker. 

That being said, I do NOT think women in the sex trade are bad people, I think they've made bad life choices and are in situations they may not know how to get out of and that's why they're doing what they're doing. If there was more help for women in the sex trade and if they'd accept the help, maybe there'd be fewer women working in the sex trade. I know life can be hard but there's always a way to get better and do better, to get help if you really want it and look for it. 

I remember when I was about 16, I saw a girl downtown Calgary who was a hooker. I sat down and spoke to her for a few minutes when she asked me for a smoke. She told me she was 15 and a runaway. She wasn't old enough to get any kind of Welfare, she couldn't find a job, so she became a hooker. She told me how she HATED her job but it was the only way for her to make money and survive. I asked why she didn't just go home, she said because her home life was WORSE than hooking! She said her parents were into drugs and abusive. She told me because she was so young, a LOT of men liked having sex with her. They didn't care that she was underage and YES you could tell she was NOT over 18!! She said the younger girls always make a lot more money than the older women. She told me how she could have sex with as many as 6-12 guys a day! Sometimes she'd go to parties and have threesomes or moresomes. YUCK! I asked how long she'd been doing that and she ASTOUNDED me by saying two years already!! WOW!! That means she ran away and started hooking at 13!! That's heartbreaking. She's said she'd had to go to the clinic many times for STD tests and medications, a few times because she'd been beaten, mugged and had an abortion. She said she started using better protection so she wouldn't get pregnant again. Too many abortions are really hard on your body! 

I never saw this girl again, even though my friends and I hung out downtown a decent amount. I always wondered if she was okay, I hope she was/is. I hope she got out of the sex trade and did something much better with her life. It was really sad to see a girl my age living that way. She was super nice and really pretty too; I wonder if her parents worried about her? You'd think they would and would have missing persons report on her. If that was my child who ran away at 13 and was gone for 2 years, I'd be so overly worried and heartbroken. I'd be out there every day looking for her! I don't know how parents can be so bad that their children run away from them and never go home. 

You bring these children into the world, they don't ask to be born, you make the decision to bring them into the world. Once you make that decision your life changes forever. You're now in charge of caring for a living being for the rest of your life. There's no abusing them, neglecting them, running out on them or treating them so bad they run away! That's a horrific thought but, reality and my heart ACHES for kids who live in any of these kinds of homes. You should love, cherish, respect, adore, care for, spend time with, talk to and listen to your children. They should be your EVERYTHING! They're a part of YOU! How can anyone be harmful and mean to children? I don't understand that. 

I have 4 children and I can't fathom ever abusing them or neglecting them. I put them FIRST every single day and always have, always will. They deserve the VERY BEST I can give them in this life. I would NEVER for a second think about harming them, I couldn't live with myself if I did. I couldn't live with myself if I neglected their needs. I will go without something I want before they ever go without something they need. Just how being a loving parent works. At least in my eyes. 

I will always do my very best to give my kids what they need and want. I won't spoil them too much but I admit, I do a bit. That's only because they deserve all the happiness in the world. 

I enroll them in activities, they have laptops, Xbox one, Tablets, phones, pets, toys, collectibles they like to collect (hockey cards and such)... they have nice bikes, skateboards, longboards, clothes, shoes, etc... They're always VERY well-fed, clean and look good. I will NOT allow them to leave the house looking like a hot mess or trashy. NO flipping way! If you're going outside, in public, LOOK NICE! You're representing yourself. Put on your best face and best self. It makes them feel good and be respected. They go to Sunday school and do things to earn money. I think Sunday school is good for children. It gives them something bigger than their-selves to believe in and a conscience. I was raised Roman Catholic, I went to Sunday school as a child and for most of my school career, I went to Catholic schools. I have such a guilty conscience!! I can't do shit wrong or lie! I have to be BRUTALLY honest at all times. 

I don't go to church anymore, as when my mom passed away I lost my faith in God. I couldn't and still can't understand how a "God" would be so evil as to make a kind, funny, strong, warm-hearted woman of just 47 years young DIE of lung, throat and brain cancer! I was and still am PISSED at him for that! I was just 25 when she died, my daughter was only 4 and has almost NO memory of my mom. It breaks my heart. She should remember her Grandma. My 3 sons should KNOW who their Grandma is, not have to listen to stories I tell them and only see her photographs. It's devastating. 

But, getting back on the topic of WTF is WRONG with people... 

... I don't understand why people are ripping one another down on these social media platforms just to bring themselves UP for two flipping seconds. They don't know your life, what you're going through. Maybe their words will cut someone so deep one day they commit suicide. It happens!! You could say the WRONG thing to the wrong person on a wrong day, then they go and kill themselves. Can you imagine how YOU would feel knowing YOU pushed someone to that point with your careless words? I couldn't handle that kind of guilt. 

We have to be MINDFUL of other's feelings and what we say online. Once you write it, say it, post it, there's no taking it back. It's done. You've put it out there and their feelings are hurt and you have no idea how LONG those hurtful words can stick in someone's mind. You may forget about it within an hour, a day, a week... they may remember those hateful words for a week, a month, years... 

Don't hurt others just because you're hidden behind a screen. That makes you the LOWEST form of life and a coward. Sure, I'll post blog posts ranting about people and sometimes throw in a rude name here and there, that's my ANGER speaking and I KNOW they will NEVER read my posts. It doesn't make it right, it makes me a coward too, to a point. However, I do ONLY write rants after I have said things to people to their faces and have hit a brick wall with them. If talking to them is like talking to a wall, they never listen or change then yeah, I rant about it. I call their asses out and make it known that I am PISSED! But, believe me, I am no coward. I call people out to their faces just like I do in my rants. I tell them how it is, without sugar-coating shit. If I am wrong, I'll admit I am wrong but, I won't go to someone's face and bitch them out if I don't know 100% that I am right. There's no point in even debating if I am in the wrong. I believe in BRUTAL honesty at ALL times and sometimes that hurts feelings; it's better than being known as a liar. 

I don't want any more of these bad days with people being ignorant on my posts. I will BLOCK away from the bad vibes. I don't need it. I will have a debate with people, as long as they don't start with the insults and name-calling, bashing and bullying. Once they start doing that, you've won. Game over, the debate is over. They have nothing worth saying of importance any more so they resort to saying hurtful things to throw you off. That shit doesn't fly with me. I don't play those games. I'm far too mature and too old for that shit. (I'm 41, not old but old enough to know better). 

More people need to bring one another UP not down. Spread more love not hate. Spread kindness. <3