Are you loving your kids enough?

In today's world everyone is so busy and caught up in working, cell phones, social media and electronics that they're kids are being raised by electronics and forgotten. So, my question is; are you loving your kids enough? Are you spending any quality time with them away from your electronics?

I am betting most of you will say yes but in reality, the answer is NO!

I think it's sad when parents buy their kids a tablet, Ipad, cell phone at 7 or 8 years old! What the HELL do they need them for? Unless they have disabilities and actually need these items, there are no reasons your kids should have them. They don't need computers in their bedrooms, they don't need PS4 or Xboxes or whatever in their bedrooms, to distract them from sleeping, reading, imagination and learning. What they need in their bedrooms are books, toys, games, puzzles, etc... stuff they can use their imaginations with and learn from.

My kids do have a TV in their room but, I limit their time and use. They also have books and toys in their room! As a writer, I expect my children to be good at reading and writing. I don't expect each and every one of them to be a writer, or even enjoy it; everyone is different. I do expect them to know how to read and write, well.

I also expect them to play with their toys, to read a book, to play outside and leave the damn electronics alone! They don't need them in their hands or face 24/7!!!

Most kids today can't even handwrite their own names! They're so used to typing that their handwriting is that of a grade one child! Cursive writing has pretty much gone out the window. In 20-30 years from now, us old folks will be able to use cursive writing as a secret code against the younger generations! My own daughter, who is older, can't read my handwriting half the time; she'll ask me to print things so she can read it. It's terrible! I will be teaching my younger children to do cursive writing myself because I can't trust the school's will!

I take my kids for walks, hikes, go on outings together, we read to each other, play board games, watch movies together, and EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, we spend time together just cuddling and talking. We bake together, cook, we ask how each other's days are and help one another when someone is down and has a problem. We work as a UNIT together. No one gets left out or left behind. I love my kids enough for 10 parents!!

Over coddling is also bad for your kids! You have to let them leave the nest so to speak and do things on their own. You have to let them fall down, scrape their knees and get back up again. You can NOT spend every single second with them. You cannot sit there and watch ONLY TV shows they like, you can't expect them to like yours either. You can't NOT have a babysitter for them so you can have time away, you can't go to school with them and not let them have friends. Let them BREATH and become a human separate from you!! They aren't YOU! I know someone who sleeps with her son, takes him LITERALLY EVERYWHERE she goes, NEVER uses a sitter for him, she goes to his school to "volunteer" in his class and goes to EVERY function they have. She takes him to ALL her appointments as well as his and pretty much LIVES at the doctor! She thinks he has all these things wrong with him when she is just paranoid and making him believe things are wrong with him. She decides who is friends are, what he wears, where he goes, how he acts, what he eats, what he does, every second of every day! Her own husband doesn't even sleep in the same room as her because their son sleeps with her. Her husband hardly speaks to her and doesn't do things with her because she is attached to their child! She doesn't work, she is a stay at home mom... Not that there is anything wrong with a stay at home mom's but, there's no reason she stays at home when her child is in school FULL TIME because he's almost 8 years old! I mean CUT THE CORD already! Let this child become a separate person from you! Spend time with your husband and STOP bitching he doesn't do things with you or talk to you... You are the one putting a WEDGE in your own marriage! A divorce won't be far behind if you don't STOP acting like this!!

There are also those parents who just can NOT say NO to their kids! These parents just PISS ME OFF! NO is a GOOD word! You can't take them to the store, have them cry, flip out and throw a tantrum because they want something they can't have. If MY kids throw a fit in public, I do NOT care WHO is watching, I will punish them and let them throw a fit! If you want to STARE at us because I have learned the power of NO, that's your problem. Stare all you like, maybe you'll learn a thing or two!

If I say NO candy, NO toys or NO whatever; I mean NO! I don't bend or give in because they cry and flip shit. If you want to do that, by all means, give in to them. But, how will they function in the real world when NO is constant?

Or the ones who will spend hours cooking a meal for their family and then the kids say "No, I don't want that" or, "I don't like it." And then give the kids something else to eat or let them eat before the meal is finished then wonder why they aren't eating healthy!?! HOLY SHIT! SAY NO FOR ONE SECOND IN YOUR LIFE! YOU ARE THE DAMN ADULT HERE, NOT THE KIDS!

OMG!! These people annoy me to no end! If I have made a meal to eat, you will sit down and eat it. You're NOT going to have a microwave pizza when I have made a roast! You're not having cereal if I've made pork chops. You're not having snacks 10 minutes before the meal is finished cooking because I know you won't eat your meal! You can WAIT for the 10 minutes.

Loving your kids too much is just as bad as not loving them enough. Kids need love, attention and structure in their lives. So, LOVE them RIGHT! Spend quality time with them and say NO once in a while!