Women who do it all are AWESOME!!

I was talking to one of my friends today on messenger. I've known her since we were 12 years old. She is a nice person, but she really doesn't have her priorities together. She is married with one child who is 7 almost 8 years old. She doesn't work because she has a child. He goes to school so the not working because she has a child doesn't make any sense to me. If he is at school from 9 am to 3 pm then she has all day to go out and make money. Instead, she has decided that it's better to be home. Her husband works a very good job, makes enough money that he can support her and their family but he is completely miserable. He comes home from work, sits on the couch and uses his cell phone. He doesn't talk to his wife, doesn't spend hardly any time with his child. He just texts people and surfs the net on his phone. He doesn't even sleep with his wife in bed any more. He sleeps either on the couch or in the spare room. Their son sleeps with his wife!! He likes to go on trips and vacations, she'd rather stay home. And the kicker, she pretty much lives at the doctor's office. She is there for herself or their son so much even I've lost count! She does the same with their cats! They're at the vet all the time!

Must be nice to throw all this money away on vets and doctors and medications. I'd rather go on a vacation; but that's just me.

She tells me all the time that she is bored and today said the only thing they did this summer was go to Edmonton. She's had 2 months to do things with her son, husband but has been at home all summer, instead. She asked what I did this summer and I told her;

Well, I moved to a bigger home, we bought a pool, I got a car, my kids went to camp, we went horse back riding, we went for hikes, saw some Alpaca's, went on bike rides, the kids went for sleep overs, had sleep over's here at home, had a Birthday party for my son, I started a new job, opened my own small home based business, joined the library board as a trustee member, joined the book club... So much we've done this summer.

You can't just keep your kids cooped up inside the house and away from people. They need to socialize, make friends and burn off their energy. It's not good for them to be around their parents 24/7 or be inside just as much. It's not good for them physically or mentally. It really bothers me she does this with her son. But, it's her child, her life; she will raise him as she feels fit.

I like to make my own money. It's a nice feeling. I started a job as a waitress. I know being a waitress isn't a glamorous job but you know what? It pays the bills and the tips are awesome! Where I work, I can make anywhere from $20 a night to over $100 a night in just tips. You can't tell me you can't live off of that and feed your kids, pay your bills. You can! If you save your tips and add them to your pay every two weeks, you can have yourself a very good pay.

Making money means you're paying your bills, means you can buy or rent a home, means you can take care of yourself and family, means you're stable and independent. It makes you feel good to do these things. Sitting around at home with no income or very little income, stressing out over your bills, how you're getting your next meal; that's not good for your mental state of mind.

Sure, being a stay at home mom is a job. I have kids, I know. It's a thankless, never ending job. You have to do everything for everyone when you're a stay at home mom but, you don't make money. Living off someone else is not the life I want to live. If that's how some women want to live, all the power to them but, isn't it sad that you have to ask someone else for money? Doesn't it make you feel bad? I can't even think about depending on a man to give me money all the time. Why should he have to work endless hours just to give you money because you don't want to work. Not that you can't work, you don't want to. It's unfair. Be equal partners, make your own money, help him pay the bills, mortgage, groceries and for the kids. Don't sit there at home all day with your hand out when he gets home asking for money when you haven't really earned shit.

As a working mom, I have to find time to keep my home clean, laundry done, take kids to medical appointments, after school clubs or sports, spend time with my kids, make meals, buy groceries, pay bills, do my small home based business, go out with my kids, talk to my friends and have time for myself as well. It's not easy doing it all. It's exhausting. But, I make it work. Because if I'm not working, not making money then guess what, I am not living. I don't want to sit home all the time.

I have a car now because I work.

No man got me a car, I did! I got myself a car.

I have a nice home now because I work.

No man got me this house, I did.

I pay my bills because I work and they're not late or going unpaid.

No man pays my bills, I do.

I want to save to take my kids on a small vacation.

No man will pay for us to go someplace. Even if we go to Little Bow park for a weekend or just to Calgary, which is over an hour from where we live, it's still a small vacation. Working does that.

Being able to run my own home based business is also because I work. I went to a 2 month course to be able to do this. I studied hard and have been able to open my own freelance writing business because of myself, not because of a man.

Being able to do all these things for myself, not because I depended on some man to do it for me or pay for it for me makes me feel great, strong and semi-powerful. Like I can do just about anything, if I put my mind to it and work hard. And it's true. If you work hard, put your everything into something, you can do it.

It confuses the hell out of me when people complain that they have no money, can't buy food, can't pay their bills but still won't go out and get one of the FIVE jobs that are out there close to home because according to them, the jobs aren't good enough! Sorry but excuse you! If you need a home, bills paid and food to eat, you'll go get ANY job that is available. You won't just sit at home crying to everyone how hard life is. Life is as hard as YOU make it. If you're not willing to get the money, it's not just going to fall in your lap!

Makes sense, right?

Be a super mom, go out and get yourself that job, make yourself some money, take care of yourself, your family, your home, your bills. You'll feel so much better about yourself. Your family will thank you for it. It won't be easy, you'll be exhausted but, everyone will be thankful to you for it.